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Self-Care and Resilience

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Self-Care and Resilience

What is caregiver resilience?

Resilience is your ability to withstand, recover, and sometimes grow when faced with adversity; it is an active process of enduring and successfully coping. It’s bouncing back after a crisis, and bouncing forward to adjust to a “new normal.” This capacity to adapt and cope with adversity is present to varying degrees in every person, no matter how tumultuous external events or inner feelings may be.

As a caregiver for an individual with a brain injury there are many effects on your health and well-being,  and it’s critical to take care of yourself in this journey. 

Why is caregiver self-care so important?

There’s a reason why, when you’re on an airplane, they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before you assist anyone else. That’s because if you’re not getting oxygen, then you can’t help someone else.  Caring for yourself is one of the most important—and one of the most often forgotten—things you can do as a caregiver.   If you are taking care of yourself, the person you are caring for benefits too!

One of the major struggles of being a caregiver is managing your stress.  To start, learn to recognize the “warning signs of stress” such as problems sleeping, irritability, being forgetful.  Then identify what is causing the stress and if it is something you can change. 

Sometimes, the first step is to identify what is in your way…what’s keeping you from taking care of yourself? For example, do you think you are being selfish if you put your needs first, or do you feel inadequate if you ask for help? Caregivers can have misconceptions that increase their stress; thinking you are only deserving of love, attention, and respect when you’re providing care to someone else is untrue. Your mind tends to believe what you tell it, so tell it you deserve a break, a meal out, time to exercise, to sleep…you’ll be amazed at the difference once you give yourself permission to take care of yourself.

There are many things we can do to improve our ability to be resilient: getting enough exercise, having relationships with others and being social, recognizing our own strengths and weaknesses and accepting limitations, maintaining a positive outlook, eating right and getting enough sleep.

How can I be more resilient?

There are many things we can do to improve our ability to be resilient: getting enough exercise, having relationships with others and being social, recognizing our own strengths and weaknesses and accepting limitations, maintaining a positive outlook, eating right and getting enough sleep. 

Learn more: Coping with Loss and Change. 

Learn about some additional tips on the National Family Resiliency Center website.   

Resilience Activities and worksheets   

Printable version of Self-Care and Resilience Quick Guide

Visit the Family Caregiver Alliance Website

Virginia Department for Aging and Rehabilitative Services Brain Injury Services Coordination Unit

www.caregiver.org – Family Caregiver Alliance

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